When
interdependence and interrelationship does not work well in a small group the
group starts dissolving and breaking its unity. The members start deviating from their specialized roles and fail to work mutually as a team. Thus members of the group do not share similar goals and the group breaks down in parts.
EXAMPLE: I consider my family of 4 as a small
group working towards running our household ship smoothly. My house is the
ship, I am the anchor of the ship and my husband is the navigator. My children
are little interns on the ship who are learning their life skills everyday.
Whenever I get in difference of opinion with my husband, our ship rocks but as
long as we keep our intentions clear and stay united, we can get over the
differences and move on. There is a sense of interdependence among all of us,
which makes us perform our individual duties responsibly. Similarly, I would
not like to jeopardize the relationships amongst us as that can break the whole
synergy of our group.
EXAMPLE 2: My friends and me had started a kitty
party with an intention to get together once a month and have potluck party.
That way our families would mingle to get to know each other and have fun. We
contributed 100 dollars every month and conducted lucky draw to find the winner
of the kitty. We were 9 friends living in Singapore for work purpose. All went
well until about first round of 9 months. When it came to continue for the next
round, one of our friend backed out saying she cannot spare one Sunday every
month for she had other commitments, one friend backed out saying she always
wins the draw in the end, other friend said her in laws had joined them so she
was not comfortable to meet once every month. Thus every friend came with
different reasons to break the kitty group. However 4 of us thought of
continuing the family get together without money element, which worked great
until one of our active participant moved out of Singapore. Finally we lost
interest in the kitty concept because it made no sense anymore as every member
in the group exhibited different interests so ultimately we closed the kitty
and the whole group dispersed.